I have been doing therapy in the private practice setting for about 2 and a half years one year with Turning Point Counseling and previously at Hope Counseling Center. I am currently supervised by Jason Odegaard MFT #MFC47135. This environment allows me to use and explore strategies that will compliment my client’s needs and learning abilities. Each person has different goals and symptoms they are experiencing which allows me to use different psychotherapy techniques to get the most beneficial outcome for my clients. I value my faith and it has shaped my life as a therapist and the type of care I provide for all of my clients. No two clients are alike and I strive to provide a unique and individualized experience for each one of my clients and help them meet their full potential and grow.
I have been working with Couples for about 2 years and also adapt different techniques to the needs and issues addressed with the couple. I use various communication techniques such as Emotionally Focused Therapy. By using EFT strategies it helps to create and open a welcoming environment for each partner to express/address their needs and wants from their spouse or partner. Emotional Focused Therapy is also very effective in improving quality of the relationship through reflection and regulation of emotions that affect the overall quality happiness of the relationship.
I also use a variety of concepts from John Gottman to help couples establish what qualities are important in healthy marriage/relationships. John Gottman believes if couples can learn how to utilize healthy and effective conflict resolution as well as get to know your partners needs on various levels emotionally, physical and spiritually you will grow in your overall satisfaction and pleasure in your relationships. I incorporate most all of Gottmans tools when treating couples and have seen how EFT and Gottmans strategies have helped save numerous marriages if the couples are willing to put in the work.
Are you having difficulty with relational stability, do you want open communication and to build trust with you partner? Then couples counseling is a great way to grow and improve the satisfaction of your relationship. Each person contributes to their own level of happiness in the relationship and I will help you learn how to find that happiness and light that fire once again.
Are you ring shopping, already have the ring and ready for the nuptials, or looking to take that leap of faith towards forever with your partner....well then premarital is for you. Are you scared about past family issues, old wounds from past relationships, "do our morals and beliefs match up," "do we have the fundamentals to build a lasting and loving relationship?" All these questions might be brewing in a couple that is ready to take that next step to forever and premarital counseling will help you build a foundation for a marriage that will last with trust, communication tools, and unconditional love for your partner.
The I dos were said, the rings put on and vows taken....but now what? Did you convince yourself things would be different once were married, my spouse will be different once were married? Some people envisioned their marriage being one way and then reality sets in its not always what they expected. If this is you then marital counseling will help, is there recent or past infidelities, decrease in intimacy, life changes, empty nest, unrealistic expectations? Any of these issues may cause marital problems but the good news is marriage counseling will help you build the marriage you always wanted or enjoy the one you already have. With simple listening skills exercise, communication tools, conflict resolution, and acceptance will help you repair you marriage or rebuild the marriage you always wanted but it takes two to tango and two to commit to the therapy process so put on the dancing shoes and learn these steps to the best marriage dance of your life.
When working with families it is important to learn about each family member, what their role is, what the family expectations and heritage is. By using family systems theory it allows me to get to know the family on a structural level; what family patterns are present and how the other relationships in the family have developed on a subsystem level; sibling level, extending family and grandparents.
Learning about families on a strategic level helps me to learn the behaviors, how the family operates as a whole, communication and how they problem solve as a family.
Lastly, intergenerational how generations influence the family dynamics, what are the culture expectations of the family and genealogy. All these levels are very helpful in treating families and strengthen the overall satisfaction of the family dynamics.
Am I a good parent, why is my child acting out this way, where did I go wrong? These are all questions many parents struggle with on a daily basis especially with teenagers. It's difficult to raise children today with the old fashioned skills most of past generations learned from their parents and society before the world wide web. The internet has brought about a social stigma on steroids of how to parent kids and setting boundaries with children in a society that is not as forgiving. Bullying, eating disorders, cutting, suicides are all on the rise and family counseling will help restore resolution to these difficulties when raising children in a high speed ungrateful society. Establishing roles of each family member, learning open communication, setting house/family rules, and expectations of each member in the family as well as parenting techniques will help any family bounce back from trials, misbehaving, abuse, and establish a functional working foundation of parenting.
"You're not my real parent, I don't have to listen to you, and you’re trying to take place of my mom/dad?" These may or may not be examples of your family life but if it is then family counseling is for you. The uniqueness of blended families is very accepting and on the rise today with the divorce rate at this highest peak in over 20 years. Establishing rules and boundaries, getting on the same team and supporting your spouse with the biological parents still in the picture, gaining the children's respect and acceptance as a step-parent are all issues that blended families experience today. However, there is hope blended families can be successful with a few helpful tools of parenting techniques, discipline strategies, and also communication with Ex-spouses or biological parents still it the picture.
"I hate you, I love you, I’m running away, you always embarrass me in front of my friends, you never let me do anything." Sound familiar...if you have teens or difficult children this may be what you hear on a day to day basis. Parenting teenagers seems like a foreign affair and in most cases it very well is. However, there are ways to build a strong lasting relationship with your teen or child. Setting rules, boundaries, and clear expectations of the child/teen, daily routines and family time is all very important when dealing with difficult children and teens. Children today struggle with issues that their parents probably never experienced or don't understand, cyber bullying, cutting, social media have all affecting the learning and development of children today. Using techniques to establish discipline, rules, how to communicate with your teen and have them communicate with you, and how to establish clear boundaries between the parent and child relationship as well as coping mechanisms to help your child deal with bullying and other developmental/emotional blocks they are trying to overcome.
When treating Individuals I use various techniques such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) that allow my clients to help improve their thought process and to help improve their behaviors by learning problem solving skills and goal oriented techniques to reach personal attainable goals. I also use various techniques associated with DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) as well as attachment theory to address family issues from childhood that may affect adult life and relational development of an individual.
Anxiety, depression, relational issues, self image, suicide, self esteem or life struggles are all concepts that most of us have struggled with at one time or another. Nevertheless, sometimes it is nice to hear that comfort of non judgment of a third party and if so then counseling is for you.
Depression and anxiety may inhibit self growth or occupational growth but with some useful tools on how to recognize and manage the symptoms as well as improve you overall outlook on life. If your struggling with trauma, past or present abuse, suicide or relational problems then counseling is for you as well. Learning how to effectively communicate in everyday situations, increase your positive thoughts and coping strategies counseling will be highly beneficial.